Do you have a stressful doctor’s appointment coming up? This is a short meditation that you can do in the waiting room to help you prepare.

Lily Hardy is an accredited Yoga Teacher and certified Breathwork Facilitator that is passionate about empowering others to unlock a life they truly love and desire to wake up to everyday. After struggling with c-PTSD and debilitating anxiety for the majority of her life she discovered through therapy, meditation and breathwork that there was in fact another way to feel safe and content in your own skin.

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World Childless Week is 11-17th Sept 2023. This week was created by Stephanie Joy Phillips in 2017 to support and raise awareness of the childless not by choice community, and enable every childless person to share their story with confidence.

Tilly was founded by former fertility patients to support others going through fertility struggles. Being childless not by choice is a stigma and a life crisis that is rarely talked about openly. Tilly wants to be part of changing this and we applaud the World Childless Week initiative. Thank you World Childless Week for putting the spotlight on something that touches so many in our society. 

Thank you also to Resolve for highlighting this week and being part of breaking down the stigma.

Together we can support and raise awareness of a struggle that affects so many!

World Childless Week is 11-17th Sept 2023. This week was created by Stephanie Joy Phillips in 2017 to support and raise awareness of the childless not by choice (cnbc) community and enable every childless person to share his or her story with confidence.

Tilly is recognizing World Childless Week

1 - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5039035/

2 - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5336602/

3 - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20967242/

Jenny Ann Johnson is the founder of Tilly. She’s spent a decade working on digital educational products prior to founding Tilly. After struggling with infertility and miscarriages for many years she finally found her path forward and is today blessed with four children. She is now creating the supportive and educational tools she herself was missing while going through fertility treatments.

Infertility comes as a shock to many, as do the mental health implications of the struggle. But when you think about it, it makes sense that a majority of fertility patients experience anxiety and depression, when having children is a life goal they are struggling to reach.

What is heartbreaking is that only 19% of fertility patients feel that their fertility clinic provides enough support when it comes to emotional challenges*

It’s 2023 - we believe it’s time to change this!

Fertility care has traditionally not focused on the emotional and mental struggles that the patient faces. Fortunately, patients are increasingly looking to get comprehensive whole-patient care, and mental health support is an important part of that. There are clinics that are very attentive to the mental health struggles of fertility issues - but sadly they are still too few. It’s understandable that even when clinics have the patients' best interest at heart, they struggle to give both medical and mental health support. However, seeing that there are numerous studies that show that digital therapy is an effective way to treat symptoms of anxiety and depression, there are cost-efficient alternatives to help support patients. This is what Tilly is made for. For fertility patients, by fertility patients (and backed by science and a team of psychologists and therapists of course). Tilly has tools and exercises based on well-proven frameworks like CBT and ACT, which we have tailored to the specific struggles of infertility.

When we look at how few patients feel they get the support they need from clinics, we believe it’s time to change this number - and we plan to follow-up on this on a yearly basis. We see that change is coming and are determined to be part of making it easy for fertility providers to give their patients the best whole-person support.

For a future with better fertility support!

Only 19% of fertility patients feel that their fertility clinic provides enough support when it comes to emotional challenges

81% feel that their fertility clinic does not give enough mental support

You may have come across the terms PCOS or PCO, or possibly even heard from a gynecologist that you have one of these two conditions without receiving a detailed explanation. We'll help you clarify the terms and delve into the difference between PCO and PCOS, what the conditions actually entail, how your body may react, and what you can do.

Of these two conditions, it is primarily PCOS that can affect your fertility, and many receive the diagnosis when they attempt to conceive. But PCOS can affect much more than just your fertility, and it's often possible to prevent the symptoms, so it's very valuable to identify signs and symptoms as early as possible.

In fact, PCOS is relatively common - it's estimated that up to 10-15% of all women have it. Despite this, there is still much to learn through research, and there is a lack of knowledge both among women themselves and within healthcare. Reports show that affected women may need to wait up to two years before a diagnosis is made, and they often have to see three or more doctors before a diagnosis can be established. Therefore, being an informed patient can be very beneficial when it comes to PCOS!

What is the difference between PCO and PCOS?

PCO stands for polycystic ovaries and literally means that you have many (poly) ovarian cysts on your ovaries. This can be detected by ultrasound, which shows a so-called string of cysts. About one-third of all women have ovaries that look like this, and in many cases, it's nothing to worry about. There are many different reasons why you can have many cysts, such as being in puberty, having an underactive thyroid, or taking hormone medications (such as contraceptives). You can temporarily have polycystic ovaries, and the appearance of your ovaries can vary over time.

PCOS, polycystic ovary syndrome, is something else despite the very similar name. Most people with PCOS have polycystic ovaries just like in PCO, but PCOS also causes a range of other symptoms. It's a hormonal imbalance that also manifests through irregular or absent menstruations, male-pattern hair growth, and acne. It's important to understand this difference between PCO and PCOS when making a diagnosis - for example, a PCOS diagnosis cannot be made solely through ultrasound!

PCOS - what do the symptoms look like and what can it lead to?

PCOS is not a simple condition - the symptoms can vary from person to person and over time. Symptoms often begin to appear when you enter puberty, and for many, the symptoms actually decrease with age. Your lifestyle and potential weight gain can also affect the degree of symptoms, which we'll explain in more detail below.

Menstrual irregularities - infrequent ovulation and menstruations (cycles longer than 35 days) or completely absent menstruation.

"Male-pattern hair growth" - increased hair in the face, abdomen, and thighs.

Difficulty losing weight - often fat around the abdomen that is hard to get rid of.

If you constantly have very irregular menstruations or none at all, you should always seek help to investigate the reason - it may be due to PCOS, but also a range of other things. Additionally, if you have several of the above symptoms, it's important to ensure that your doctor conducts a thorough examination to confirm PCOS - read more about how a diagnosis is made below.

Many receive their PCOS diagnosis when they discover they have difficulty becoming pregnant. The reason PCOS can make it harder for you to become pregnant is that it affects your ovulation - you either ovulate very rarely or not at all (and therefore have menstruations infrequently or never). Ovulation is required for you to become pregnant, and if you ovulate very irregularly, it can be difficult to identify your fertile days, which also occur less frequently if you have PCOS.

It's absolutely not impossible for women with PCOS to become pregnant, but it may take longer and often requires assistance.

Untreated PCOS can ultimately lead to not only fertility problems, but also an increased risk of serious diseases like diabetes, cardiovascular diseases such as high blood pressure and heart attacks, and even uterine cancer.

It's still not entirely clear what causes PCOS, but it's believed that the condition is influenced by many factors, both genetic and lifestyle-related.

To understand the causes, it's interesting to delve into two areas - excess androgens ( "male sex hormones") and so-called insulin resistance (reduced sensitivity to insulin). Both of these conditions are common when you have PCOS, and they are what underlie the various symptoms that PCOS presents.

The androgen excess is responsible for polycystic ovaries, menstrual irregularities, increased hair growth, and acne. Insulin resistance is the culprit when it comes to abdominal obesity, increased risk of type 2 diabetes, and cardiovascular diseases.

In fact, there is consideration about changing the name of the condition - the current name is a bit misleading since it only describes how the ovaries may appear in PCOS and doesn't address anything about androgen excess and insulin resistance, which would be more relevant.

In a normally functioning menstrual cycle, the growing follicle (egg sac) produces androgens that are then converted into estrogen. To trigger ovulation with the help of the hormone LH, the brain requires a peak in estrogen. However, in PCOS, one could say that the follicles are idling. Despite this, the brain attempts to induce ovulation and continues to secrete LH, causing your LH levels to remain elevated much longer than normal. Therefore, if you have PCOS, ovulation tests (which look for an LH peak) will not be reliable; you will either get positive results all the time or not at all.

Persistently elevated LH levels lead to increased production of androgens like testosterone and dihydrotestosterone. Additionally, the liver's production of sex hormone-binding globulin (SHBG) decreases, resulting in high concentrations of free testosterone in the blood, leading to symptoms like male-pattern hair growth and acne.

Insulin resistance means that you cannot effectively utilize insulin, resulting in increased insulin production (hyperinsulinemia). This condition also stimulates androgen production in your ovaries and inhibits SHBG production. SHBG levels usually decrease before an increase in testosterone levels is observed in the blood. Even if your total testosterone level is within normal limits, your level of free testosterone (the unbound portion) may be elevated.

Thus, it can be said that elevated androgen production and insulin resistance influence each other, where insulin resistance triggers increased androgen production and increased androgen production contributes to insulin resistance. It is not entirely established today which of these two factors is the primary cause of PCOS. Most likely, both factors can drive its development.

Diagnosing PCOS It's important to know that PCOS cannot be diagnosed solely through ultrasound; your doctor must also examine your hormone levels and consider your symptoms. In addition to testing testosterone levels in the blood, your AMH level may be interesting to look at. In PCOS, your AMH level is often high because it is the "immature" follicles on your ovaries that secrete the hormone AMH, and if you have PCOS, you have many of these.

To receive a diagnosis of PCOS, you must have a combination of different symptoms. A number of experts agreed a few years ago on the criteria to be used in diagnosis, known as the "Rotterdam criteria."

You must meet at least two of the following three criteria:

An ultrasound shows that you have polycystic ovaries, meaning more than 12 follicles on each ovary.

You have irregular or absent ovulation, which manifests as irregular and long menstrual cycles (longer than 35 days).

A blood test shows elevated levels of total or free testosterone. And/or you have symptoms of high testosterone levels, such as male-pattern hair growth or acne.

It is also important to rule out other potential causes, such as ovarian tumors that can lead to increased androgen production.

Even though the above criteria are strict, it's important to remember that we are all different, and there is always a spectrum for each criterion. Everyone experiences their PCOS differently, and it can vary over time: some may not be affected much, while others have significant problems that affect their daily lives and general health.

If you suspect you have PCOS, Tilly Fertility Check can provide you with a tool to get the right help - you'll receive hormone levels to bring to your appointment, a checklist of questions to ask, and so on.

Can I have PCOS without cysts or follicles on the ovaries?

According to the Rotterdam criteria, since you only need to meet two out of three criteria to receive a diagnosis of PCOS, it can be confusingly possible to be diagnosed even if you do not have polycystic ovaries. This in itself is a good reason why the name of this condition should be changed!

Does irregular menstrual cycle and absent ovulation mean I have PCOS?

The simple answer is no, because both irregular menstrual cycles and absent ovulation can have many other causes. One example is hypothalamic amenorrhea, which is not caused by the ovaries but rather by the brain "shutting off" your menstrual cycle if you are undernourished or overexercising.

Since PCOS can manifest in different ways, there is no one method that works for everyone. In conventional medicine, the focus is primarily on relieving symptoms such as acne or troublesome hair growth. Often, hormonal contraceptives (such as birth control pills) and anti-androgens are prescribed to reduce androgen excess.

Alleviating symptoms can be important for your well-being, but it can also be valuable to try to address the underlying causes of your discomfort. Making changes in your lifestyle can improve your hormonal imbalance and insulin resistance. It's always worth trying to see if it has any effect for you.

Maintaining a healthy weight, proper diet, and exercise can help

If you are overweight, losing weight (even as little as 5-10% of your weight) can improve your hormone balance, and over time, this can contribute to a more regular menstrual cycle, which also increases the chances of pregnancy. A healthy weight can also alleviate symptoms like troublesome hair growth or acne, and it also reduces the risk of diabetes and cardiovascular diseases. It's not always easy to lose weight, especially with insulin resistance, so seeking professional help can be beneficial. How much weight loss helps is also individual, and you need to try and see what works best for you and how your body responds.

Even if you are of normal weight, regular physical activity is good, especially strength training, which increases your muscle mass and improves your insulin sensitivity and hormonal balance. Eating a nutritious and balanced diet is also important because through diet, you can stabilize your blood sugar.

In some cases, the diabetes medication Metformin is also used to address insulin resistance.

What do I do if PCOS affects my fertility?

If PCOS is the sole reason for your difficulties in getting pregnant, it is most likely due to irregular or absent ovulation. In this case, you can receive medical help in the form of ovulation induction, which can be done with medications like Letrozole®. However, if it does not yield results, you may consider undergoing IVF treatment.

It's fantastic that there is help available, but it's also important to know that fertility treatments can be very demanding. If, with the help of your doctor, you have identified that you have PCOS, it may be worth trying to first prevent the symptoms and stabilize your cycle. Ideally this should be done before you actively plan to become pregnant. For example, you can start by making some changes in your lifestyle (altering your diet, exercise, and so on) and see how it affects your menstrual cycle. Stabilizing your hormone and insulin levels is beneficial from a general health perspective, not just to increase the chances of becoming pregnant.

We must also point out that fertility is highly complex and dependent on several factors - there may be other factors besides PCOS that come into play. It's important to conduct a thorough investigation where both the woman and the man (if a sperm donor is not used) are tested, so that one doesn't become fixated on one issue and overlook another complicating factor.

If you suspect you have PCOS or want to know more, we recommend heading over to our friends at Ovulai, their app is specifically designed to help women with PCOS. We also recommend visiting PCOS Awareness Assocaiation for a wealth of resources about PCOS.

And, as always,  if you are looking for others going through the same thing, join the Tilly community in the Tilly app! Here you can find support in how to cope with the emotional and mental challenges that PCOS can entail.

PCOS and Fertility.  It's estimated that up to 10-15% of all women have PCOS. PCOS - what do the symptoms look like and what can it lead to?

Maya Maria Brown, M.A., is an infertility mental health expert. She has a master’s in Counseling Psychology, and has worked with individuals and couples on infertility and relationships. She also has personal experience with infertility and is currently in treatment.

Many people with infertility also experience anxiety - find out why, and how to cope.

Anxiety is the most common mental illness in the world. Around 30% of adults experience anxiety during their lifetime.

Anxiety can be experienced in response to certain life experiences or circumstances, like during infertility, surrounding abuse, or after the loss of a loved one. But anxiety isn’t always related to an external stimulus. Generalized anxiety disorder, the most common form of anxiety, is the experience of anxiety in daily life without a specific or known cause.

According to the NIMH, “Anxiety disorders involve more than temporary worry or fear. For a person with an anxiety disorder, the anxiety does not go away and can get worse over time. The symptoms can interfere with daily activities such as job performance, school work, and relationships.”

Here are a few examples of what anxiety can feel like:

“Chronic anxiety is messy and unpredictable, overpowering and insidious, physical and mental, and at times so unexpectedly debilitating I’m unable to speak or think clearly or even move.” - Steve Barry

Anxiety is like when you’re playing a video game, and the evil boss’ music is playing so you know danger is nearby, but no threats actually appear.

“Living with anxiety - living alarmed - makes it impossible to enter the moment, to land inside my body and be there. I cannot be in the moment because I am too afraid of what the next moment will bring. I have to be ready.” - Glennon Doyle

Anxiety is like a revolving door of negative thoughts in your brain that never stops spinning, no matter how much you try to reassure yourself that everything is okay.

How to know if you’re experiencing anxiety

Anxiety can impact us physically and mentally. Sometimes the experience is so glaring and powerful that we can’t feel or think about anything else. But other times, anxiety can be sneaky, and we might not even realize we’re anxious until someone else points out to us that we’re experiencing symptoms like shaking, sweating or talking nonstop.

In order to cope with anxiety, we first need to be able to recognize it when you’re experiencing it.

Difficulty concentrating - mind going blank

Rumination, thinking about something negative over and over again

Sleep problems, e.g. difficulty falling or staying asleep, restlessness, or unsatisfying sleep

Depersonalization, dissociation or disconnected from self

One way to recognize if you’re experiencing anxiety is to do a body scan meditation. Put away distractions and focus on your breath as you breathe deeply into your belly. Bring your awareness to each part of your body, starting with your toes and ending with your head, and notice any sensations you feel.

If you’re experiencing anxiety, you might notice some physical symptoms or thoughts that are triggered by practicing mindfulness in this way.

Many people with infertility experience anxiety. Numerous studies show that “women with infertility report elevated levels of anxiety and depression.” Research suggests that up to 60% of infertile individuals report symptoms of anxiety and depression, and that their levels of anxiety and depression are significantly higher than in fertile controls.

One study on infertility and anxiety showed that “The prevalence of anxiety among the infertile group was higher compared with patients diagnosed with HIV-positive, cancer, heart diseases, or other serious, life-threatening chronic diseases.”

This means two things: first, that it’s common to experience anxiety when facing infertility and that you’re not alone. Second, that because people with infertility are at a higher risk for anxiety, it’s important to be mindful of your mental health and seek support.

When it comes to the causes of anxiety during infertility, there could be numerous factors:

One study found that 86.8% of the women with infertility surveyed were experiencing anxiety, and it was correlated to how long they had been experiencing infertility.

Fertility medications, like Lupron and Clomid, can have anxiety symptoms as side effects.

The stress of managing doctor’s appointments, tracking cycles and ovulation, taking medications, and timing intercourse can cause anxiety.

The life circumstances surrounding infertility, such as other people in your life conceiving easily, and the uncertainty of your future, can be anxiety-inducing.

6 tips for coping with anxiety related to infertility

Anxiety can be a debilitating mental health issue, so seeking support is crucial for your well-being. A mental health professional can provide the interventions needed to help you cope with your anxiety.

You don’t have to experience severe anxiety symptoms to reach out for help - even if you don’t think you’re experiencing anxiety, having mental health support during infertility can be immensely helpful.

Know that you’re not alone - reach out to others

As we’ve seen, it’s very common for people with infertility to experience anxiety. Talk to the people you know who understand infertility - people in your life, or in online forums like the Tilly community - to help you feel connected and less alone.

Social connection is an important part of our overall well-being, so reach out to people you love and trust to help you as you go through this difficult time.

Taking some moments to focus on your breath and return to the here and now can help calm anxious thoughts. If your anxiety is too high to allow you to sit still and be present in your body, you can also practice mindfulness while you go for a walk in nature, dance it out in your living room, or do something active like swimming.

Mindfulness is about learning to observe your thoughts without judgment. You don’t have to be perfectly zen or blank, you’re just noticing what’s going on in yourself, which is a great tool for managing anxiety.

Focus on something positive, creative or exciting

Focusing on something productive or engaging can help calm your anxiety. Try starting a new hobby, or returning to something you used to love doing. It can be something creative or intellectually stimulating, like knitting, watercolors, puzzles, or a musical instrument.

Not only will this help you focus on something other than anxiety, it can also be fun and support your well-being in general.

Cognitive restructuring, or finding new ways of thinking, can help you cope with anxiety. Tools like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, loving kindness meditation, and positive affirmations can help you notice and change negative thought patterns.

When you find yourself stuck in an anxiety-induced negative thought spiral, try questioning your assumptions, finding alternative thoughts, or gathering evidence against the negative thoughts to help your mind break out of the cycle.

Remember that so many people with infertility experience anxiety. This isn’t a personal shortcoming, and there’s nothing wrong with you. Being kind to yourself is crucial for your ability to care for yourself and heal from this experience.

Give yourself treats throughout the day - this could be literal treats like chocolate, or symbolic treats like five minutes alone, an extra long bath, listening to your favorite song, or hugging someone you love. You deserve love, care and support.

Many people with infertility also experience anxiety - find out why, and how to cope

What are our options to have a child if we don’t have eggs, sperm and a uterus readily available?

When you and your partner or partners want to have a child, the path might not be straightforward if you don’t have eggs, sperm and a uterus readily available in your relationship.

Let’s look at what might be challenging and beautiful about growing your family as an LGBTQ+ couple or relationship, and what support can be helpful throughout the process.

“Social infertility” is a term that describes people who would like to have a baby, but face challenges due to their physiology and relationship. Basically, the relationship does not include the physiology needed to conceive and develop a pregnancy through to a live birth.

People who experience social infertility include two women in a relationship; two men in a relationship; and people in relationships in which one or both people are trans and do not have the reproductive physiology to create a child with sperm, egg and uterus.

Also relevant to this topic are people who are in a polyamorous relationship; even if there are eggs, sperm and a uterus present, it might not be obvious or simple to determine who will play which part in creating a child.

7 challenges that LGBTQ+ people might face when trying to have a baby

It’s important for all people to be aware of the challenges that people in an LGBTQ+ couple or relationship face when trying to have a baby.

Understanding the challenges can help the people themselves be more prepared, and can help those supporting them be able to show up for them in the ways that they need. There are also laws and policies that need to be changed, so the more people understand these challenges, the better chance we have at changing the rules so LGBTQ+ people can grow their families more easily.

Here are some of the challenges that LGBTQ+ people might face when trying to have a baby.

The often overwhelming costs associated with assisted reproductive technology are not unique to LGBTQ+ people, but unlike couples with a man and a woman, LGBTQ+ people are almost guaranteed to incur costs when trying to have a baby.

When all that is needed is sperm (for example, when two women are trying to have a child together), the costs could be kept low by using a known sperm donor and doing an at-home insemination - but that’s not always an option. And if no one in the relationship has eggs and/or a uterus, the costs of using an egg donor and/or surrogate can be incredibly high.

Some health insurance policies will only cover assisted reproductive technology for heterosexual couples. So, LGBTQ+ people might be blocked from health insurance coverage that heterosexual couples are able to receive.

Some medical professionals and fertility clinics require that a couple tries to get pregnant for one year before they are able to seek treatment. But if LGBTQ+ people in a relationship are not physically able to conceive unassisted, that time limit is simply wasted time.

Some clinics/countries do not offer double donation

Some people have someone in the relationship who has a uterus, but both donated sperm and donated eggs are needed to create an embryo to implant into the person with a uterus. While many clinics will work with donated eggs or donated sperm, some have limits where the other element (either the egg or the sperm) must come from someone in the relationship. This could be due to the clinic’s policies, or the laws of the country the clinic is in.

Some clinics/countries don’t work with LGBTQ+ people at all

Unfortunately, there are places in the world where the process to have a child as an LGBTQ+ couple or relationship is not possible. It might be in the country’s laws or the clinic’s policy that assisted reproductive technology is only available to men and women who are trying to conceive and have an infertility diagnosis. Adoption is also not available to LGBTQ+ people in some places.

Being misgendered by clinics and medical professionals

Many medical staff are not trained in inclusive language and practices. Trans and genderqueer people are frequently misgendered by the medical field, and this can be harmful and painful when it comes to fertility treatments.

For example, a medical professional might want to consider the options available to a couple in which one or both people are trans. It’s important that the people in the couple are spoken to using the pronouns and genders they identify as, while sensitively and respectfully discussing the possibilities available due to their ASAB (assigned sex at birth). Unfortunately these conversations are often approached without care or regard to a person’s identity.

Many states and countries have laws around parenthood that can pose challenges to LGBTQ+ people. In some places, a child’s birth certificate only has space for a mother and a father, and it must be the genetic parents’ names written on the birth certificate.

An example scenario is if two men are using an egg donor, one of the men’s sperm, and a surrogate to have a child. In some places, the man whose sperm is not used must legally adopt the child, rather than being the parent on the birth certificate and considered a father from the time of the child’s birth. The process of adopting your own child can be logically and psychologically challenging.

Not being genetically related to your child

Any person who has a child who is not genetically related to them - whether it’s through egg/sperm/embryo donation or adoption - might struggle with the situation. There might be feelings around your partner being genetically related to your child when you’re not, or the decision of whose DNA will be involved might have been a difficult one to make. While heterosexual couples might also face this challenge due to infertility, LGBTQ+ people are almost guaranteed to have this be part of their experience as a couple or relationship.

What can support LGBTQ+ people wanting to have a baby

As we’ve seen, LGBTQ+ people wanting to have a baby can face many challenges. Fortunately, there are many ways they can be supported through the process. Here is a list of things that LGBTQ+ people and the people who care about them can do to have support as they try to have a child.

Consider for yourself what it means to be a parent.

People who will not be genetically related to their child(ren) might have feelings about what it means to be a parent. As we explored in our article about egg donation, it can be helpful to consider what parenting is to you, beyond DNA. Passing on family and cultural traditions, life lessons, and love and support are things that you might consider to be beautiful aspects of parenthood that you can experience with or without a genetic connection.

Find supportive clinics and medical professionals.

It might take a few tries, but there are doctors who are sensitive and have great expertise when it comes to working with LGBTQ+ people. You deserve to work with people who understand your relationship and goals, and will do everything they can to help you have a baby. Hopefully, you won’t have to travel too far to find them, but it can be worth it to take your time to find the right clinic and doctor for you.

When it comes to the barriers to having children that are dictated by laws and policies, there might be things you can do to change them. This tip is especially aimed at people who support LGBTQ+ people having children, since the LGBTQ+ people themselves shouldn’t have to do this fight alone. We can all play a part in calling decision makers, educating clinics and medical professionals, and spreading the word about unfair and discriminatory policies.

Fertility treatments and choices can be overwhelming, and can be a lot to navigate on your own. Try the activity "Building your support network" in the Tilly app to help you, or take some time to consider who in your life can help you in this experience. It can be helpful to talk through difficult decisions with a friend, or have your family cook meals for you when you’re actively in treatment. And if you don’t feel you have people in your life who can show up for you in that way, you can find online support groups filled with people who understand what you’re going through.

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